I love attending weddings, they are beautiful and fairytale in nature. Fairytale indeed, as that is just the tip of the iceberg. Think back for a second and recall how many fairytale weddings you have attended that ended up within a few years in divorce.

To my surprise, in clinical practice and in my social network, marriage means different things to different people. Even the best couples are not totally on the same page on their expectations of marriage. Some people are able to work out the kinks by God's grace and commitment of "both" parties. Most people unfortunately are not successful in marriage according to statistics

Appreciate your relationships; carry your spouse and family along. Of what use is a goal achieved if you have no one to share life with

Remember God promised Abraham a seed, but Abraham and Sarah took over from God and tried to assist God by engaging Hagar to produce Ismael.  Abraham and Sarah failed to return to God for instructions.

Address your baggage; it is necessary to take an inventory of your emotional and physical issues. What are the things that hinder you?

ost achievers do so alone with God. They are used to God’s own company in the valley and on the mountain top. Remember the story of David?

An attitude of gratitude creates an altitude! In all things, gives thanks and maintain a grateful attitude. Count your blessings both big and small daily. Do not despise the days of small beginnings; remember you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Amazing grace is sufficient for you. While pursing any worthy goal, you will fail many times, but remember failure is part of the process and an opportunity to perfect your skills and talent. The famous Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC, failed many times.Peter failed many times.

Approval from others may never come, so don't waste your time waiting for their accolades. You need to be willing to risk your reputation for your dream

Remember your vision might involve you shattering glass ceilings or stepping into unchartered territory. You might just be a trailblazer, be it local or global.

Affirmation is necessary. We need God’s affirmation, and we also need to be able to affirm ourselves just like David did. We cannot always count on the affirmation or accolades from the people around us.

Assistance will be needed; no man is an island. Humility is knowing you can't achieve a worthy goal by yourself and needing to ask for help. We ask for God’s help in prayers by seeking his face and asking for direction. We can also get directives from God by reading the Word

Apokaradokia is a Greek word, which means “to maintain focus at all cost”. 
Apo means “to turn away with concentration, ignoring other interests and distractions”. Kara means “head”. Dokia means “to stretch forward”.

Abandoning the past might be necessary. We must renew our minds and rest our mind. We must let old things pass away and rest our minds to the new promises and standards of God. This does not happen automatically; this takes time and effort.

Accept his ways. When in doubt, let God’s way and his Word be the final authority. We all need to study his Word to get familiar with his ways. God’s ways are different from popular culture for the most part.

Ask God for the roadmap to your vision. Many people give up on their vision because they feel overwhelmed or lack resources.

Acknowledge you need a vision because it is important to have one. It is dangerous to live life without having a vision; action without vision is wasted energy and time. Having a vision gives us hope and helps us stay focused.

Food affects the brain. There is a popular saying, we are what we eat. Think for a second, how do you feel after pigging out on pizza or ice cream? I bet you feel tired or lack the energy needed throughout the day. On the flip side, cetain foods make us more alert and think sharper. Just look at children at a birthday party after feeding them with candy and birthday cake they are wired and hyper.

Changing your diet is one of the best ways that you can keep your brain healthy and prevent dementia. Eating a diet that is rich in natural plant based foods while limiting red meats, sweets, and saturated fats can reduce your risk by greater than 50%.